I read an article on http://blackgirllonghair.com/ and it was a story about a beautiful sistah by the name of Tashay Manning (click tag to read story). She did the big chop, but utilized wigs as a protective style, and to basically gain the confidence to eventually wear her hair.
When she did, many of her co-workers were not receptive. All I have to say about that is ‘THEIR LOSS”!!! For me, the beauty of their reaction and her finally wearing her hair was that she was able to see who really liked her and she was able to received a sense of a new freedom. The feeling of being natural (once we get past all the mental bullshit) is amazing, and necessary.
Ms. Manning’s story speaks volumes. I’m so proud of her. Because she didn’t allow those people to stop her from wearing her natural hair texture. Congratulations, Ms. Manning :-). And thank you Portia Cole of huneybflyy.com for sharing the story. (another beautiful sistah)
For me whooole ordeal isn’t all about being “natural”. I don’t like the harsh effects relaxers can cause but (to each his own). Hell, if I feel like relaxing my hair I will and may (but will always cut it all off again and go back to my hair texture. Those who know me “know me”)..I just do not like when relaxers are used because a woman feels her (our) natural hair is not worthy, is disgusting, or that it is something to be ashamed of……. I just don’t want any woman (regardless of nationality) to rely on any “accessory”. I don’t want us to feel that we need any certain look to be beautiful. I want us to feel secure within ourselves, enough to not care so much about being accepted by others.. These “accessories” i’m talking about can be: weave, relaxers, make up, dyes, eye lashes, certain style clothing, certain people, whatever. Be you (no one else). #usethemdonotabusethem
And men need to stay out of it!! We love you but stop!!
As women, it is normal for us to be creative and change up our looks from time to time. It’s FUN!! For many of us, that is why we dye our hair, wear make up, lashes, wigs, weaves, relax it, go natural, locs, braids, dress within a variety of styles and fashions, etc. It is our form of creative expression.That is just what we do. Men need to ACCEPT that (which would be accepting us). The ones that do get better loving for it ;-).